Dear Max

Dear Max,

I hear you aren’t too sure about the idea of a forever family.  They tell me you just love your foster Mom so much, that you can’t imagine leaving her!  They say you are scared, and worried, and don’t really want to come.  I get it.  I do.  It is a big and scary thing this thing called adoption.

Max (9)

Max, not too sure about us asking questions about trips across the world

Let me tell you a little bit about what being a part of a family is like.  It’s fun.  It’s messy.  It’s hard, and somehow it’s easy.  Above anything, it’s safe.  Family is the one thing that is always there.  And Max, I promise to you that your family will love you through the hard.  They will hold you through the pain (only if you want them to).  If you need to grieve on your own, know that you won’t be grieving alone, and they will wait for you, for as long as it takes, to grieve your losses.  Family is good like that.  They are always there.  And they are always there forever.

Max (3)

Max and his foster Mom

But do you know what the funny thing is?  I don’t have to tell you how special family is, because you DO know what it is like to be part of a family.  Your foster Mom taught you that, and continues to teach you that every day.  Your foster Mom did the most selfless and important thing she could for you…loved you fiercely and taught you how to be loved.  And I’m happy she did.  In a way, I’m happy you will hurt, because feeling the loss of love proves you have the ability to love.  Speaking of hurt, I’m not going to lie to you, it is going to hurt, a lot, to say goodbye to her.  But the good news is that you WILL love again, and the next time you love, you can be sure it will be forever.

Max, I promise you that as hard as it will be, the good will outweigh the hurt.  I promise to find you a family who will honor your foster Mom, and celebrate her always.  I promise that once you process your grief (and it may take a while), you will see the good.  I promise you will laugh.  I promise you will love.  I promise you will be loved.  Forever.  I promise you this IF you do me one little favor…..come on this hosting trip so you can see it’s not too scary.  Come on this hosting trip so you can realize that you want to say yes to adoption.  You want to say yes to forever.  And it won’t be as scary as you think.

Love,

Sarah

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Max is available for hosting this summer for a family in Pennsylvania or Maryland.  If we do not find a host family for Max within the next few days, it will be too late.  Please consider this sweet boy.  We are looking for a special family who will embrace him, fears and all, and show him that it isn’t as scary as he thinks.  You don’t need to be interested in adoption.  You just need to be interested in being love for this boy for four short weeks.  The lesson he will learn will change his life (and most likely yours) forever.  Please email Sarah at sarah@madisonadoption.org, or visit www.madisonadoption.org,  for more information about hosting.